Intimacy and Relationship Issues

Lesbiancouple Intimacy problems widely occur behind a variety of closed doors. Conflicts may include a loss of harmony between the sheets, a lack of sexual desire between either partners, a loss of trust, or failure in communication. There are often psychological factors that may contribute to a sexual disorder such as erectile dysfunction, menopause, a lowered desire after a new mother has given birth or during a major life change. Intimacy issues are common, but if one or more become severe and there is no resolution in sight, it may be time to seek therapy for guidance.

What Makes a Healthy Relationship?

•    Trust

•    Mindfulness

•    Mutual Respect and Admiration

•    Effective Communication

Some of the signs that intimacy problems are affecting a relationship include:

•    Disappointment in oneself or the relationship

•    One or both partners are feeling dissatisfied

•    Couples lack communication and disconnect from one another

•    One or both partners feel neglected or unwanted

•    A feeling of sexual boredom or unhappiness

Steps to take for treating intimacy issues begin with:

•    Psychosexual Therapy: this technique allows couples to express themselves in a safe environment with a trusted and supportive professional (referrals can be given).

•    Relationship Counseling: healthy relationships require strong connections, time to build trust, and consistent healthy communication (including speaking one another's love language). Whatever the issue may be, a counselor can work with individuals together and/or separate to overcome their issue(s).

Contact Me


Currently offering teletherapy sessions


Lori Payne Benker, LPC-S


10:00 am-6:00 pm


10:00 am-6:00 pm


9:00 am-6:00 pm


10:00 am-6:00 pm


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