As you might guess, when I grabbed the book titled “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson from the Barnes & Noble’s bookshelf, I was having a bad day. Exhausted from the effort of worrying about everyone and trying to handle everything, I was eager for some insight on how not to care so much. The bright orange covered book was my beacon of hope – “YES!” I thought, “I definitely need to learn this subtle art of not caring.”
The book is worth a read.
I’m sure many can relate to my overwhelmed mental state (hence the book ranking in the top 10 on the New York Times Bestseller List). The book is worth a read as it presents some basic emotional intelligence concepts in a new relatable way with colorful language to entertain the reader. Below are a couple of key points I took from the book.
Life is finite.
You will die. I will die. While not particularly uplifting, this truth is freeing. Measuring the weight of any given situation against this inevitability helps to gain a much needed perspective. While many interactions and screw-ups seem insurmountable in the moment, most are not when viewed through the lens of mortality. Therefore, choose to care about and put your energy into those things that matter in the end. I speak more about this in my article – “Stop Measuring Your Success through Comparison with Others.”
Confidence not gained through hard work and sacrifice is self-delusional entitlement.
The universe will not manifest your dreams and expectations just because you exist and hope for them. Even if you believe with 100% certainty you are meant to be a millionaire, you are not likely to see the dough roll in if all you do is sit on the couch, eat Doritos and watch Netflix. While I absolutely believe you need to keep your energy vibrations high and expect good to come your way, you also need to do the work! Decide what you really desire. What are you willing to put in the long hours and bust your butt for, then don’t give a f*ck about how hard it is going to be or the obstacles in your way.
Choosing good values is integral to life satisfaction.
Make sure you are aligning your life against good values, not piss-poor ones. Manson defines good values as those that are i) reality-based (vs. superstitious), ii) socially constructive (vs. destructive), iii) immediate and controllable (vs. not immediate and controllable). Some suggested examples include: honesty, innovation, vulnerability, standing up for oneself, standing up for others, self-respect, curiosity, charity, humility, creativity.
If you’re interested in reading “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck,” you can obtain a copy using the link below. I would love to hear what you think!
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